Calyn wrote this post dated 3 Nov 08. It is very encouraging, so I want to share her post with you too:

On sat Pastor Jasmine mentioned something which really struck my heart and that is: trust God then love people. Not the other way round. Trust and love God then we love people, if not bound to be disappointed.

Sometimes loving people and caring for people, opening your heart to people cause one to be emotionally vulnerable and when expectations are not met, one may get disappointed. So where is the line to be drawn and how to draw this line?

My only conclusion is to look at Christ when we love people, when we relate with people, when we open our hearts to people and when there are expectations. To know what's God's definition of love and let Christ be the only motivation for love. It is truly hard but it is about drawing strength and love from God to love, to give, to sacrifice. It was never meant to be self-seeking.

Some people are afraid to go deep as they fear of getting hurt, some relate deeply but without being emotionally attached to the ppl (is this inhuman?), while others experience "withdrawal symptoms" due to too much emotional attachment to ppl, others are hermit crab whereby they are withdraw away from people cause they are afraid to pour in too much into the relationship only to see no fruits coming out.

What kind of person am I? haha.... i walked through all those mentioned above. If you were to look closely at each type of r/s, there is common theme and that is the self-seeking and 'ME' theme. There is no God in the picture or no others in the picture. Just me, myself and I. But how does God want us to live our lives? It is to place God first, then others followed by ourselves.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

And ..... LOVE NEVER FAILS....