A Frank Brother-To-Brother Talk

think abt it

  we all talk so much abt being spiritual here and there

  but come to think of it

  have we ever been taught how to win a sister's heart?

  hmm?

  

  no.

  we have to look around, ask around... pick up whatever scraps of knowledge we can find.

10:27 PM i tell u

  it's only teh goodlooking guys. the guys with humour who win

  deep breath

  the confident guys

  the macho guys

  who win

10:28 PM we weaklings

  we nice guys

  we are the losers

  the outcasts, the rejects

  the church has failed us

10:29 PM in this area

  (man, i wonder why i said all these. you know what i mean?)

10:30 PM bro: i know wat u mean.. i'll take that on the feeling level..

 me: tks

  but i do mean it on the higher level too

10:31 PM bro: at that level, i would disagree a little (but not totally)

 me: what do u disagree with?

10:33 PM bro: firstly, the church isn't just an institution, it's the ppl ard you.. and i think they have helped

  me, peter, etc

  :)

 me: thanks for reminding me of tt truth

10:34 PM bro: no prob

  and even at the higher level of church life, there are at least some efforts to help singles

  it is a recognised problem

10:35 PM me: right

  i'll do something abt tt

  i have a bro who also ... struggles with this in a way // not my sheep btw

  i am helping guide him to be more mature

  yet at present

  i look around

  and sometimes i feel so frustrated

10:36 PM it feels like a piecemeal effort

  and i am only able to help one person at a time

  and i barely have the skills + knowledge

  to help a bro grow more mature

  u know

  maybe it's the culture thing as well

10:37 PM (yes i am looking at the church again as an institution from this perspective)

  it's easy to complain

  but i'm furious enough to do something abt it

  (which may not be a bad thing)

10:38 PM maybe i gotta fight harder

10:39 PM there's so many things

  ah well

  tks for listening to me rant

 bro: hee

  :)

10:40 PM me: but yes!

  i feel angry at all the unfairness

  having gone thru various experiences in my church

  somehow...

  by the grace of God

10:41 PM even tho i've experienced rejection even from certain leaders

  i've seen grace around still

  n putting all these things tog

  precisely becos of the pain of unfairness tt i've experienced

  instead of becoming disillusioned with the church

10:42 PM it makes me want to fight even harder to help my church be wat God wants her to be

  we are still so far from wat Jesus wants us to be.

  but yeah, God will raise up men and women after his own heart at the right time

  to speak and help the church grow

 bro: amen!